Things change as time changes. Many centuries have passed by and family values have started to vanish from people’s lives. This is happening even in ultra-conservative societies like those of India and China. People have now started to go for an uncontested divorce in order to save money and efforts. But is it really good to choose this method over conventional procedures?
According to a self management advisor, ‘low tolerance cause of most divorces’. I chanced upon a news article yesterday while searching for some information on divorce and that’s where I came across this fact. The number of people who opt for uncontested divorce has shot up. Earlier people had to spend a lot of money as lawyer’s fee in order to get a divorce. Now, they can carry out the procedure on their own without spending money.
What drives people to take this step in the first place? Nagging over a person’s competence creates a conflict between egos and leads to frequent quarrels. This can be averted by being tolerant. Is being tolerant really difficult? It may seem to be difficult but it isn’t. No man is perfect and this is a universal truth. No one includes each and every person in this world. If that is true, how can one look at the shortcomings of their spouses and cite it as a reason for divorce? If they feel their spouse is really incompetent they should take steps to transform them. Taking a divorce cannot be a good solution for this problem. But ironically, most of the people prefer the hard way and only decide to part ways.
A divorce is certainly painful for everyone involved in it. The spouses would feel a sense of void after the divorce is taken. Close friends will have to take sides and support either of the people who take the divorce. This can cause misunderstanding among them. Parents of the couple would feel sad seeing their son or daughter face that situation in life. But the whole scenario would be totally different if they all get together and have a word to sort out the differences among the couple. They can give suggestions to the couple on how to make themselves better people and lead a happy life.
Tolerance is a virtue that encompasses many other noble qualities such as forgiveness, patience and love. Don’t let hatred get the better of you and get into an uncontested divorce hastily. Some vows are not meant to be broken.
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