Surfing the one of the social book-marking sites, I came across a news item that describes the views of Parliamentary Social Committee on divorce. The articles states that a MP has pointed out that the children are badly affected by the conflicts within the family. They have to suffer much more than the children of divorced parents. Many parents are going to get divorced in Canada mainly because they do not want to have continuous quarrels and endless arguments in front of their children.
Actually, the divorce will not affect the children much if the adults can handle this situation very wisely and carefully. Both the parents should take all the possible steps to minimize the effects of divorce on children. They should help the children to face this situation very calmly and rationally.
At the same time, the children will suffer more in a conflicting family. Parental disagreements and conflicts will always produce undue emotional strain on children. They love and want both the parents. It will be very difficult for them watching their parents quarrelling, arguing, and fighting with each other.
Family conflicts can cause many psychological problems in children. Children who grow up in a conflicting family atmosphere will exhibit emotional instability, hyperactivity, and feelings of insecurity. They will have some behavioral problems like anger management problems and violent behaviors. Emotional stress due to the parental conflicts can negatively affect the mental growth of children.
They will suffer from social withdrawal, conduct disturbances, emotional disturbances, emotional insecurity, learning disabilities, and attention problems. These children will show a tendency to perform very poorly in schools and will stop the studies at an early age.
They will suffer from lack of confidence and low self-esteem. Studies have shown that the mental agony due to the disturbed household can result in health problems like headache and insomnia. Moreover, sometimes these children will start their sexual life at a young age.
It has been widely accepted that parents are powerful role models for their children. They have a natural tendency to imitate and follow the behaviors of their parents. They learn values and morals from their families. By quarrelling with each other the parents are setting themselves as a bad example for children.
Many conflicting spouses are going to get divorced in Canada because they cannot resolve their disagreements peacefully. They continue to fight in front of their children. I also support the view that it is better to get divorced rather than always fighting each other in front of their children.