I read an article written by Sarah Hampson recently. It spoke about how divorced people can move on with life after separation. I share the same views as hers when she spoke about love. Wow, she has wonderfully taken a dig at a few authors who have written about life after divorce, saying that all such books make love look like a complicated project rather than a sweet exchange of emotions and life. With divorce in Canada on the rise, this column of hers will be able to show some insight on life and marriage to all who are married and to all who are thinking of taking divorce.
Of late, many celebrities have started filing for divorces. A Google search done by me revealed the story of a celebrity couple in India who filed for divorce recently. Everything goes well when the couple is in love, problems start only after marriage. The wiser ones predict these problems when they are in love and part ways without dragging the affair till marriage. The emotionally inclined people who are unlike their practical counterparts fail to foresee these issues and end up marrying the people whom they loved thinking that everything will be fine after marriage.
Practical life is totally different from what we imagine. The psychological pain and the feeling of isolation one will have to endure after separation is really indescribable. How can one be happy or stay cool when the person whom he/she loved deeply and cared for wholeheartedly shows some papers and asks to sign them to end everything? It is easy to say that we should not think about the past and move on with life. But in real it is really difficult. A friend of mine was highly depressed when he broke up with his girlfriend. Just look at the scenario. Separation from a lover is itself highly painful. If that is so how can the separation from a spouse be easy?
Most cases of divorce in Canada are those of middle aged couples. An analysis of the person is very essential before getting married. You may say that love is blind and it does not let you censure your lover. But face reality. Is the person really compatible with you? Will he/she be with you through thick and thin? These are just some of the many questions that you should ask yourselves. Well I’m the kind of person who thinks that marriage is an eternal bond. Hence, instead of marrying a person and taking divorce after bitter experiences, it is better to be patient and wait for the person whom you think suits you the best. All these are just my personal views and I’m endorsing them just because the number of divorce in Canada is increasing. I don’t want anybody to be unhappy. The pursuit of happiness is the ultimate goal for many people and marriage which is an integral part of human life plays a major role in the happiness of a person.